Alone for a season
I pray you are all having a wonderful year so far and staying on track with your New Year's
resolutions. I want to share something with you all and I hope it blesses you. I am choosing not to
have a Valentine this year. If one chooses me, that may be ok. However, I have decided to take some time to do a little self-examining. It's nothing too major. My heart needs a little repairing, is all. I won't go too deep into it...yet. Nonetheless, what I wanted to share with you is something I have learned over the years. What I learned from being the child of divorced parents and experiencing bad break-ups is how and when to be alone. One of the toughest obstacles people face is being alone. Statistics say the highest number of suicides occur between Christmas and Valentine’s Day. I believe it’s because this is the time to be with the ones you love. Those people are lonely and simply, cant. cope. I can tell you first hand there’s nothing worse than seeing happy couples on Valentine’s Day when you’re lonely. You see, man’s greatest desire is to be loved and our greatest fear is the exact opposite...being alone. Single people, you ought to hold out for the right one and allow yourself time to heal in between relationships. Bishop T.D. Jakes said it best in his sermon “Living through Dying Places.” He said, “There is a difference between being buried and being planted. When you’re buried, you are dead, but when you’re planted you are placed underground only to sprout above the surface. The sad part is you can’t listen to your peers because to the naked eye being buried and being planted look exactly the same!” What do you do when you are emotionally planted? Read, pick up a hobby, learn to love yourself. Learn from the mistakes that you have made so you do not repeat them. The Bible says to treat people the way you want to be treated and let me tell you, you can’t love someone else if you don’t love yourself. My advice be joyful in you loneliness. Think. No one is attracted to a depressed looking person bitter to the world. Utilize your time alone. Work on yourself. Love yourself. The key to a successful relationship is what happens before you get into one. The first step in being alone is to ask God to make you whole (to be healed mentally, physically, spiritually, financially and emotionally). Ask him, “God show me, me. Lord, heal old wounds, bring me closer to you and make me new in Jesus” name, amen.” To all the lovers out there, enjoy this wonderful day. For those of you who do not have a Valentine and have been alone for the holidays, put on a big ole smile, and be joyful in your loneliness. It's only for a season. You are just underground waiting to grow. In the meanwhile, don't forget to water and nourish yourself with the Word of God. Know what to look for in your next mate. Don't rush it. I'll leave you with this:
Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. 5It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. 6Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. 7It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. 8Love never fails.
Happy Valentine's Day,